The Importance of Small Things

One of the things that I have been reflecting on this week, is the importance that just one small thing done for us, can have when we are feeling down. It might be one comment that we receive, one offer of support, a meal prepared or an impromptu invite received. I know I have talked about acts of kindness here before, but somehow what I am meaning here is more than just an act of kindness. It might be something that is so important to one person, but which we have no idea about at the time when we do it. Still, it reaches out to that other, and perhaps has them feeling included, releases them from the burden of worry, gives them some ideas about how to move forward or helps them feel seen.

So what do I mean by this? As you know, I've had some renovations done to my house recently.

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Sex Matters

So, picture this! I was sitting over a glass of wine with a friend a couple of weeks ago. We were both lamenting the fact that she hasn't yet fallen pregnant, something which she and her husband have been wanting to do for some years now.

"The thing is Lou!" she said, with the usual straight-forward approach, which always makes me grin. "To fall pregnant, you have to have sex!"

"Hmm," I said in agreement. "Damn! I take it you and Jack are not?"

"No!" she said, sounding at once sad and disappointed. "No, we're not! I'd be lucky if it happened every few months, and even then I feel like it's a duty for him!"

Well as a woman many years her senior, I found myself wanting to give her a huge hug.

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